This past Friday, David and I met up with some friends to see this new movie. Truth be told, I’m *almost* always down to support and watch an LGBT POC film. Pariah is such a fitting title for such an affirming and impactful film. Pariah is a movie about a 17 year old girl coming into her own and coming out. While the film acknowledged a host of complexities, I was very happy to find out there was no rape scene or gay bashing in the story line.
After the movie, friends (both new and old) came over for a little fellow-shipping, wine “tasting” and debriefing. Although the movie is one I would definitely recommend, I really enjoyed talking topics with my friends again. It’s been a while. In the midst school, work, and building a home/life with David, I kind of let it get away from me. When I’m surrounded by my intentional community of friends, family, and comrades, I’m reminded of all the beauty, safety, and love that I am so fortunate to have in my life.
We did have another incentive for hanging out and gathering with friends. Anisah and Michelle were in town from Brooklyn, NY and we wanted to make sure they had a proper Portland welcome. Needless to say it was a good evening for many reasons.
After everyone left, Anisah expressed to me how great it was to spend time with such a diverse group of folks. She was particularity struck by the inter-generational aspects of the gathering. Then I thought about Romiane -an elder and my friend. We’ve only known each other for about ~8yrs, but I feel like I’ve known her forever. She loves me like her own child (and vice-versa). It had been a while since we’d last hung out and over the years we’ve definitely had our fair share of time-outs and struggles. I realized: A true friend will struggle with you because they love you.
Pariah [puh-rahy-uh] noun. 1. A person without status. 2. A rejected member of society. 3. An outcast.
Through struggle, we grow stronger . That night, I was reminded of the community, friendships, solidarity and love that are born from Pariah.